What kids are like: 11 to 13 Years Old

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They’ve been called “tweens” by some: Kids on the brink of, or just tiptoeing into, the teenage years. Perched precariously on the threshold of potential, it’s a time for testing limits—both theirs and yours. A passion for arguing comes to mind, as they further develop an ability to see [and express] facets of an issue.

The Northwest Regional Educational Laboratory produced materials for volunteer tutors to use in their work with schools and community groups. The materials offered developmental clues about kids ages 11 to 13 years old. Parents and other adults may find these clues helpful, too. Along with testing limits and loving to argue, the materials note that, generally, this age group:

• Needs help with organization in areas such as schoolwork
• Has an increased interest in current events and social issues
• Feels challenged rather than defeated by reasonably hard work
• Tends to be perfectionists; if they attempt too much, may feel frustrated
• Can be both playful and serious
• May have bad diet and sleep habits and, as a result, low energy levels

These kids aren’t yet adults but, at the same time, they’re no longer young children. “They waver between a growing need for independence and a continuing need for support,” according to the materials.... “Eleven to 13-year olds may have diminished self-confidence, which hinders their willingness to take risks in their learning. Be supportive by honestly sharing some of your own challenges and successes.”

The materials were produced by LEARNS, a partnership of the Laboratory and the Bank Street College of Education through the Corporation for National and Community Service.

This column by Karen Lytle Blaha is provided as a public service by the Northwest Regional Educational Laboratory, a nonprofit institution working with schools and communities in Alaska, Idaho, Montana, Oregon, and Washington.